Ignoring the haters is the best way to go. You are a wise lady. I think jealousy plays into some of the creep's comments. When you have thousands of followers, the folks with very few strike out at you.
There’s so much negativity on the internet, and people seem much meaner when they hide behind a keyboard, oftentimes incognito. I don’t understand why some people waste their time being unkind, and sometimes downright cruel to others for no reason.
When articles were written about me decades ago, I noticed a few negative comments that said I deserved what happened-their reasoning made no sense, of course. It stung, even though it was unjustified. It made me scared of the internet, and I feared posting on a social media platform until I joined Medium and started writing here in 2022. It took awhile.
Now I just go immediately for the block or mute button, depending on the situation. These individuals have personal issues they need to address, and I’m not giving them free rent in my mind.
I’m an old school “don’t feed the trolls!” type, Yana, but I’m also not as popular as you are (IMHO you deserve it, btw) and I’m male, so I don’t get the jerks that you have to put up with. OTOH the only trolls I’ve gotten are guys throwing rocks at my wife when I mention her, so blocking them is just a safer course of action for me. 😁
It is unfortunate that people should attack you or any writer, for instance, unfairly and just to grab attention. I am glad you let go, so they looked foolish in their own eyes.
I was a regular for all your Medium articles (before my July platform escape!). I cannot fathom anyone being able to have a criticism of your writing that they could back up. And while you might not know everyone's gender, I have a hunch that more men that women launch verbal stink-bombs your way.
So sad how it happens so often, I had someone call me a fake on my YouTube comments and the crazy thing was the very thing she was calling out was her mirror. So, I take it as that- What is this showing me? About myself and/or the other person? And then move. Thank you for sharing!
I usually ignore negative comments because they bring horrible energy. You know what they say if people turn into haters immediately that means they have been hating since day 1
You have exactly the right approach. Whether it's wrong side of the bed, jealousy, or the writer himself feeling like a loser, he didn't channel his thoughts into anything productive, but you did. You wrote this :)
On Yana. I think you and I have been online enough and writing long enough to know that this people are not rare. They are literally in every corner of every space looking for who to chip on.
And if someone calls me fake and tries to paint me a picture of me, I think I'll laugh and then give them a piece of my mind.
Who wants to drag things because they feel opinionated well then let us drag it.
Sorry to see this Yana, but I think it's inevitable if one tackles anything even slightly controversial. As you point out, some writers deliberately choose controversial subjects, "rage-baiting", as it generates readers though I am too thin-skinned to do this!
Regarding how to deal with hostile comments, I would not engage and block. I have only really had one person make snarky comments on Medium, and reluctantly blocked. I say reluctantly as we had shared quite a bit on the platform as we started at the same time, but when I tackled some mildly controversial political views, they did not hold back and made comments which veered towards the personal, so blocked them. Since then I have blocked a couple of others, though I gather some writers have to do a lot of blocking so I guess it varies.
Thank you for reading and leaving a comment!
Ignoring the haters is the best way to go. You are a wise lady. I think jealousy plays into some of the creep's comments. When you have thousands of followers, the folks with very few strike out at you.
There’s so much negativity on the internet, and people seem much meaner when they hide behind a keyboard, oftentimes incognito. I don’t understand why some people waste their time being unkind, and sometimes downright cruel to others for no reason.
When articles were written about me decades ago, I noticed a few negative comments that said I deserved what happened-their reasoning made no sense, of course. It stung, even though it was unjustified. It made me scared of the internet, and I feared posting on a social media platform until I joined Medium and started writing here in 2022. It took awhile.
Now I just go immediately for the block or mute button, depending on the situation. These individuals have personal issues they need to address, and I’m not giving them free rent in my mind.
Trolls are always annoying! I usually give back twice as much as they give out and it shuts them up. Block button is always good to.
I’m an old school “don’t feed the trolls!” type, Yana, but I’m also not as popular as you are (IMHO you deserve it, btw) and I’m male, so I don’t get the jerks that you have to put up with. OTOH the only trolls I’ve gotten are guys throwing rocks at my wife when I mention her, so blocking them is just a safer course of action for me. 😁
It is unfortunate that people should attack you or any writer, for instance, unfairly and just to grab attention. I am glad you let go, so they looked foolish in their own eyes.
Sometimes such awkward situations occur online. They did so with a purpose. It might be their tactics to get traction!
I was a regular for all your Medium articles (before my July platform escape!). I cannot fathom anyone being able to have a criticism of your writing that they could back up. And while you might not know everyone's gender, I have a hunch that more men that women launch verbal stink-bombs your way.
So sad how it happens so often, I had someone call me a fake on my YouTube comments and the crazy thing was the very thing she was calling out was her mirror. So, I take it as that- What is this showing me? About myself and/or the other person? And then move. Thank you for sharing!
I usually ignore negative comments because they bring horrible energy. You know what they say if people turn into haters immediately that means they have been hating since day 1
You have exactly the right approach. Whether it's wrong side of the bed, jealousy, or the writer himself feeling like a loser, he didn't channel his thoughts into anything productive, but you did. You wrote this :)
It is unfortunate that such mean-spirited people exist in this world. It is best to ignore them.
On Yana. I think you and I have been online enough and writing long enough to know that this people are not rare. They are literally in every corner of every space looking for who to chip on.
And if someone calls me fake and tries to paint me a picture of me, I think I'll laugh and then give them a piece of my mind.
Who wants to drag things because they feel opinionated well then let us drag it.
I think you're right. They don't have much to lose. Or maybe they have other accounts??
Keep ignoring them!
Sorry to see this Yana, but I think it's inevitable if one tackles anything even slightly controversial. As you point out, some writers deliberately choose controversial subjects, "rage-baiting", as it generates readers though I am too thin-skinned to do this!
Regarding how to deal with hostile comments, I would not engage and block. I have only really had one person make snarky comments on Medium, and reluctantly blocked. I say reluctantly as we had shared quite a bit on the platform as we started at the same time, but when I tackled some mildly controversial political views, they did not hold back and made comments which veered towards the personal, so blocked them. Since then I have blocked a couple of others, though I gather some writers have to do a lot of blocking so I guess it varies.