Why Do Some Start Falling for Someone Else While Already in a Relationship?
Here are 10 reasons
There are many reasons why people who are taken can fall for someone outside the relationship. Some of these reasons could be:
Humans are visual beings. So it is natural to be attracted to visually appealing people. It may have nothing to do with actual feelings.
You are bored with your current partner, work, or the constant monotony of life. So romance might be something that you feel can add spice to an otherwise boring life.
Going through a mid-life crisis.
Revenge for something your partner did to you.
You admire the qualities in the person you are falling for.
It fills you up with feel-good hormones
Something or many things are currently missing in your current relationship.
You begin to imagine how different and wonderful life would be with this new person.
You convince yourself it’s your partner’s fault that you are falling for someone else.
You convince yourself that you deserve happiness and if someone else’s heart breaks in the process, well too bad.
According to clinical sexologist Dr. Martha Lee, it is not uncommon to be in love with someone but have a crush on someone else - say a celebrity: “It's common and normal to admire, be attracted to, and pine for people who are beautiful, smart, wonderful, amazing, confident, or rich."
However, when an individual wants to leave the current relationship because they fell in love with someone else, an article published by Elite Daily suggests thinking through the following first:
1. Is the relationship they are currently in actually worth ending?
2. Is the attraction for the crush based on lust and conveniently overlooking the negative qualities the crush might have?
3. Sit down and reflect on the underlying issues in the relationship that are prompting you to break up.
4. Once you have arrived at a decision and if it is to break up with your current partner then break the news gently.
A version of this originally appeared on Quora.
It’s strange when human’s are faced with challenges, the first thing they think about is finding greener pastures. It’s just a way of finding a solution to what’s missing in our lives. But there are some who have a serious tendency to wondering eyes no matter what.They will never be satisfied with what they’ve got.