What To Do if Your Girlfriend Blocked You After an Argument and Hasn’t Texted You Since?

This is what you can do

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There are many factors in play here including the fact that different people react very differently when hurt.

Sometimes blocking the boyfriend can seem like an overreaction and other times it can be viewed as a ploy to test the boyfriend.

In these situations, it would be helpful to see it from your girlfriend’s perspective in order for her to take such drastic action. A relationship is made up of two partners and one doesn’t just wake up one day and decide to block the other. She must have been terribly hurt or terribly upset and that was the way she saw best to deal with the situation at that time.

Is this typical? Not really and some people may call it toxic but remember relationships are not perfect. If you love her, give her some time to cool down. If she doesn’t reach out to you first, then reach out to her and see if she is open to talking things out in person.

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Dating and relationship expert Dan Bacon of The Modern Man suggests the following tips on how to get your ex back if she blocked you:

1. Understand the real reason why she blocked you: Dan puts forth various serious behind the block - she may no longer be attracted to him anymore and may be dating someone else or she is doing it as a way to test the boyfriend. But sometimes, it could be because she is genuinely hurt by your words and/or actions.

2 . Before attempting to contact her, you must change your communication style: Dan suggests switching up your communication style and doing things differently when attempting to contact your ex. For example, if you are prone to being angry and argumentative, try a more easy-going and positive approach.

The idea is to attract her back into your life not widen the gap between the two of you.

3. Decide whether or not you are willing to use risky techniques to get yourself unblocked: The reason why Dan refers to this approach as risky is that some guys like to play it cool. For example, if the girlfriend were to unblock the guy after a cooling-off period and the guy ignores her texts, then she may feel rejected and move on. Sometimes guys immediately move on to other girls in an attempt to make the ex feel jealous. Both strategies may backfire so Dan suggests doing away with risky approaches.

Dan ends with a reminder that just because you got blocked does not automatically mean you are a bad person and to use the situation to self-reflect and do the work in the areas that may need improvement.

A shorter version of this was originally published on Quora.