5 Guys with Romantic Potential Who Unknowingly Shared this One Trait in Common
Subtle qualities in a guy that appeal to me
Dating life has become fiercely competitive no wonder insecurities run rampant. It is not uncommon to find people not presenting themselves as who they actually are because they need to act a certain way to be accepted or liked.
They lie about their age and weight and hide their quirks in case they are labeled weird.
I think there is so much pressure these days to look a certain way and act a certain way that it is no wonder people are afraid of being themselves.
Sometimes they try too hard just to not be…..
For example, check out these 5 guys with romantic potential who unfortunately shared this one common trait:
Guy # 1 The manual junkie📚
The guy who has been burned badly once and is now determined to do everything right.
He has spent so many hours studying how the perfect relationship works that he has lost all sense of spontaneity and room for organic growth!
All conversations sound like a freaking interview and every roadblock is navigated by looking it up in the frigging relationship manual written by best-selling author, Ms. Know it all.
Forget the fact that none of Miss Know-it-All’s relationships have lasted more than a couple of years to date.
Go figure.
Guy # 2: The Joker
I am a non-native English speaker and perhaps that is why I don’t always get the American sense of humor. Punchlines and references fly over my head (maybe because I don’t watch Netflix or hang out on social media — just read a bunch of books for fun. Yup you got it, I’m a nerd😊).
What is even more bewildering to me is the fact that guys from my culture emulate this style of trying to be funny and think it is the quickest way to impress a gal.
I mean I get it, you need to act or talk a certain way to fit in here (like memorizing the scores from the Celtics to joke with the boys at work) but seriously, trying to be funny 24/7 is a big yawn for me.
Yes, dating profiles promote the idea that gals like guys with a sense of humor but not when the guy is trying so hard that all I think about is how fast I can escape.
Guy #3 The inveterate whiner 😭
There was once a guy, well-educated with a great job, who couldn’t get over the past that his wife divorced him. It must have hit him pretty badly because he considered it a big failure on his part and it seeped into his dating life.
It is not very appealing not to mention cause for concern to hear a man talk about how he flew to various cities in the US to meet prospective dates only to be rejected. In other words, he wants this to work so badly that you feel pressured to do something to help him.
But then you hold yourself back at the last minute because you remember you ain’t his mama or therapist.
Guy # 4 The Alpha male 🚀 aka the tool guy⛏️
Even the way he walks makes it known that he is carrying a rocket launcher in his pants.
🙄
From the get-go, he talks about his sexcapades and his knowledge of everything bar none. Trying to convince me he’s all of that. Like I should be grateful to be in the presence of god’s gift to women (according to him).
🤭
Why is he trying so hard to convince me he’s got the tools when all I can think of is where the said tool has been?
Eww.
Pass in a hurry.
Guy #5 The Apologist
I get we are a long way still from body acceptance. And my heart breaks from this because one of the guys with whom I was talking told me upfront that he was overweight and hoped that I wouldn’t mind.
Why would I?
But he kept going on in an apologetic tone about his weight. Tbh, I don’t know whether he considered me out of his league or he’s been burned before on account of his weight. But starting a conversation by apologizing about yourself, whatever your age or size, does not bode well.
I’m not model thin and I could definitely lose a few pandemic pounds. It certainly would sound cheesy but it’s true when I say I love my body and am confident in my skin.
My guy
For me, it was not looks or the size of the wallet in his pants that made me sit up and take notice but something that he said.
As we got to know each other, I would listen to him talk about his mom and sisters. Only a man with a deep love for family would have done the things he does for them and the sacrifices he made along the way.
That revelation touched my heart because my intuition surmised his giving nature and how he treats the women in his life meant he would never hurt me, physically or otherwise.
My intuition wasn’t wrong.
Some of his other subtle qualities that appeal to me
He makes me laugh not by trying hard to be funny. He does that by just being himself. We have great chemistry because of something more subtle than a rocket launcher — just his scent is enough for me to start purring contentedly.
In my past relationships, something was missing in the love, especially when dealing with challenges.
This time around, whenever I find myself faltering from the weight of life and family, there is someone behind me ready to step in and quietly assume the role of being my pillar of support, becoming the wind beneath my wings.
I think this is just what I need, a mature, grounded kind of love.
🎈This post originally appeared on Medium. If you enjoyed reading this, do check out my other posts on Medium.
I think I need to consult my wife in this matter. I am sure that she will label me as a guy type #02.
If a man can just be himself without putting up any attitude, it is a lot easier to read him. All those with dramas are potential threats to one's happiness, I believe.😍